Parental Kidnapping rings a little bell no matter how you thing about it.
We’ve all seen news stories about kidnapping of child and his or her mother to make them disappear. Often this is done so that they can be used as child soldiers or used for human trafficking, according to some sources.
Parents are forced into doing such things for their children’s sake, believing that the kidnappers will do anything for them, even if it costs lives or limbs.
There is no excuse for what they would do, and we’re not saying parents shouldn’t take these steps. But there are other reasons why parents are warier than others, including cultural fears, religious beliefs, and age. Here are a few examples.
The most common reason is cultural fear of being kidnapped (or worse, being kidnapped) because abducting children is a sign of social failure.
I was abducted by my family when visiting my daughter with her grandparents. This happened so often when I was younger and it felt like they were trying to get me out of my mind.
When adults are kidnapped, it makes them feel helpless. As soon as we found ourselves back home, my daughter asked her friends and family how long it had been since she’d been taken and we knew exactly why they were trying to get me back home.
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My parents told us we didn’t need to worry about our daughters being kidnapped again for now, but they did warn me that I needed to make sure my husband and I were well-prepared for any scenario.
It’s important to avoid situations where we believe we’ll be the last person the kidnappers get to see. Especially when people think, “I hope I don’t get caught alone.”
We’ve also heard stories of young girls being kidnapped by their parents to make them appear older, become obedient, or help them avoid getting into trouble. So you may believe that your family members might try to kidnap you too.
You shouldn’t be afraid of yourself or your kids, even though I know it’s hard. However, sometimes just knowing your parents know you’re being taken takes away your confidence and makes you sad.
People who get kidnapped should always talk to their parents for advice and guidance—especially if you already have had previous experience. No matter how much you want to leave, stay put.
If you’re old enough, go to the hospital and the police to report the kidnapping and ask your parents if they even have your welfare to help you get back home.
For example, a 13-year-old girl named Leah, who lived in New York, was allegedly kidnapped by her adoptive parents just to ensure she remained on her parents’ radar and followed up on her every move.
She’s now been released and returned to Connecticut after reuniting with her biological family.
Another popular kidnapping story comes from a 16-year-old boy who went missing because he could no longer speak Spanish at school. He eventually came home to find himself kidnapped by his stepmother and her boyfriend.
Because he spoke fluent Spanish, the boys assumed they’d made him feel better by asking him to teach them both Spanish.
At first, it seemed like everything went smoothly until reality dawned on them. They realized they would probably never find out, at least where he lived because he didn’t have a driver’s license, so they decided to adopt his little brother and sister into theirs instead.
A neighbour reported that the kids were abducted after the dad tried to leave the house, and the mother quickly grabbed the two kids so they wouldn’t get locked inside.
Then the mum allegedly threw one of the children off the bed and told the father that it was the only way the kids could still reach him, and they left.
Another victim called the authorities and said the man who kidnapped them would kill himself. His only crime was being raised by two strangers who don’t have kids at home.
Although the father said he’s okay with the two kids and will look out for them while his wife goes through medical exams and gets married, he hasn’t changed his mind.
He wants vengeance for the trauma he was subjected to. Even though the dad said he’s willing to do whatever he needs to if it means saving his children, he isn’t considering his decision.
The dad said the family wasn’t going to tell anyone else what happened because they were worried about the safety of the children. He was never able to convince his children he loved them.
Eventually, the court issued an arrest warrant for the children and it didn’t take long before they were reunited with their families. The father was sentenced to 10 years in prison and ordered to pay more than $1 million for their abduction.
After spending so many months of his time behind bars, the victims were reunited with their father.
Lastly, it happens to anyone who doesn’t fit one of these categories. The idea of becoming a guardian, also considered parental kidnapping, is terrifying enough.
It should also be mentioned, however, that it’s uncommon to find these types of cases among close relatives or groups who commit the majority of kidnappings.
To be honest, people choose to adopt a baby to give them a sense of security and make sure they’re loved.
With that logic being the primary goal, it’s understandable why some people would consider child trafficking and kidnapping to be “just another kind of bonding process.”
However, I am pretty sure we should also talk about the fact that those who are mostly concerned about feeling sorry for someone are just as much to blame as they are worried about making that bond stronger. In my case,
I had to be reminded of why I felt bad about myself whenever my children weren’t around and why I couldn’t get out of bed without thinking about how scared I was each day about what a predator was watching over them.
Maybe the real reason behind my hesitation about adopting, although I did want my child to grow up happy and safe, was because I didn’t want to lose more of her and never bring any more pain to my life.
Now, as an adult, I understand how fortunate I am to have adopted a kid without any issues and to continue seeing her as my only child—but that’s the only thing I can see now.
I’m worried about how well my kids look back at me now. That’s all I can see now, but I just hope I won’t become one of their next targets.